Would you give your mother-in-law a key to your house?
Anonymous Mum1 day ago
My MIL is asking for a spare key so she can 'help' when we are at work. My husband thinks I am overreacting for hesitating. Am I wrong?
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My MIL is asking for a spare key so she can 'help' when we are at work. My husband thinks I am overreacting for hesitating. Am I wrong?
No. A key means unannounced visits, and once you give it you cannot easily take it back. Boundaries are not disrespect.
Compromise: give it to your husband's care, not hers. If she needs to come, he coordinates it. Keeps the peace.
We gave mine a key and regretted it within two weeks. She rearranged my kitchen. Never again.
It really depends on the MIL. Mine is a saviour and I would trust her with my life. But if you are hesitating, that is your answer.